Author Archives: Nicola Scalise

When a friendship no longer suits you.

I read this article the other day about “How to Let a Friend Go”. Have you ever noticed that people hold on to things they don’t need anymore? Much like that pair of jeans you are hoping to fit back into or those uncomfortable shoes you might wear on a special occasion, there are friendshipsContinueContinue reading “When a friendship no longer suits you.”

Is perfectionism and shame the same thing?

Do you ever struggle with perfectionism? (My hand is raised) Have you ever thought about “being a perfectionist” and “being afraid of what will people think” as the same thing? Watch this three minute clip from Oprah’s Life Class to make you think differently. Looking to set some new authentic goals? Let’s talk.

Do we really need to trust the people we work with?

The short answer is yes- but I promise this post is still worth reading. I am reading a book called “Leaders Eat Last” by Simon Sinek, and it prompted me to spend some time looking for videos on him explaining his ideas on what leadership really is and what it looks like. Now you haveContinueContinue reading “Do we really need to trust the people we work with?”

What is “worry burnout”?

I’m really tired of talking about the pandemic, I’m sure you are too. I’ll mention it only this once since it sets the stage for where we are in 2022. As an adult trying to participate in society it feels like we are always inundated with bad news. Illness, racial violence, political upheavals. It’s allContinueContinue reading “What is “worry burnout”?”

Maybe the Smallest Wins are the Big Ones…

Lately I’ve haven’t been feeling excited about much. I’m sure I’m not the only one, so I though it might be something worth addressing. A few months ago I came across an article in the New York Times, that talks about the concept of “languishing”, a word that I hadn’t ever come across. Someone whoContinueContinue reading “Maybe the Smallest Wins are the Big Ones…”

Resilience: Toughness or Vulnerability?

Today, I was thinking about resilience and how we use that term in a work setting.  Resilience is a term that is used to describe how tough and unflappable a person is. We often use it to reference someone who always keeps their ‘cool as a cucumber’, positive attitude-no matter what the organization throws atContinueContinue reading “Resilience: Toughness or Vulnerability?”

You know those people who are always productive? Want to be one of them?

I think this discussion could help you become more productive and also help you learn to be kinder to yourself. Productive people are those unicorns that a lot of others are jealous of. I’ve heard different versions of this over the years:  “How does she do it? Work 40+ hours a week, meal prep, readContinueContinue reading “You know those people who are always productive? Want to be one of them?”

Ever feel uncomfortable in a new situation? Me too.

I was thinking back about a conversation I had with a mentor while I was in undergrad, she told me “find comfort in the discomfort”. I totally understood what she meant at the time, but was unable to truly live that day to day. Most of the time I just felt, well, uncomfortable. I’m someone whoContinueContinue reading “Ever feel uncomfortable in a new situation? Me too.”